Articles: Children: Opportunities to Help Build Self-Esteem
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Ways to help your child build self-esteem:
Listen to what she’s saying. Look at her when she’s talking to you. Consider that what she is saying is valid to her. Repeat the information or question to let her know that you understand, or ask her specific follow up questions. If she tells a joke, giggle together. If she tells you her feelings, let her know it is okay to feel the way she does. If she asks you a question, be honest in your reply.
Let her help you. Little kids as young as 2 years old can help around the house, with supervision, of course! Very young children are eager to help, given the chance. For example, 2 year olds can help wash the car and water outdoor shrubbery while 3 year olds can sort socks and help collect the incoming mail. Most 4 year olds can put away clean flatware (except knives) and sweep the patio while 5 year olds are able to set the table and help care for pets as well as help carry and put away light-weight groceries.
Let her lead. Some children are natural leaders; others need to build their confidence. Play “follow the leader” games. For example, when walking home from the playground or another very familiar route, ask her to lead the way. In the safety of your home, cover your eyes and ask her to guide you from one area of your house to another. Let her decide which family card or board game will be played.
Let her solve problems. It’s natural to want to protect our children and solve their problems for them. However, it serves them better to help them learn to solve their own problems. Start by suggesting some options and letting her choose. Gradually shift to having her come up with the options.
Catch her doing the right thing. Positive reinforcement will go a long way toward fostering the behavior you want her to exhibit. So, take a break from saying, “No!” and instead look for opportunities to praise her behavior. You’ll both feel encouraged!
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